Vashti vs. Esther
Hubby and I were discussing some spiritual things this evening, and in the middle of me making MY point he says, "At the height of the situation God didn't walk in and call both names, He called mine. When He walked into the garden (fully aware of what happened, may I add) He called for Adam and not Eve." (Gen 3:9)
And then it happened. The words stopped me in mid thought, honestly. We have to pray for the weight of responsibility that is placed on our husbands even "when" we're the cause of the fall. Our attitudes and feelings can get us into some pretty detrimental places, especially when we're acting more like Vashti and less like Esther.
Ladies, let's not wake up and find ourselves banished from the kingdom because we're still acting like daughters and not wives. Apparently, Vashti had not matured enough to understand her position and her place as the Queen. Does that mean she had to be subjected to the inappropriate request of King Xerxes? Yes! She knew what she signed up for. Or as we like to say these days, "you knew what it was at the gate". However, if she truly understood her position and the level of authority of her role, she would have gotten out of the predicament in a more diplomatic approach as to not shame the leader of 127 provinces in front of his subjects.
Maybe Vashti did not understand that in marriage, you serve as well as you receive. Being the queen affords you many benefits just by default. However, there comes a time when the queen must "play her role" without complaint. Kings did not seem to have relationships with their queens like we see most marriages today. So just think about how much time Vashti had to enjoy the spoils of her arrangement in comparison to how much time she spent playing wife. Running a kingdom that spreads from India to Ethiopia is not a nine to five job. So okay, one day he asked you to come and dance (prance around) for him and the fellas. Okay. When was the last request? Let's keep in mind this was the custom anyway. (By the way, Pastors do it all the time!) So what's with the attitude, Vashti?
Vashti was in her "little girl" feelings. Some of us are still in daddy's girl mode when we enter into marriage. This can happen for various reasons. Some of us are making our kings pay for where our fathers or exes came up short. News flash! Our childhood legally lasts for only 18 years. If we're still sulking, something isn't right. Furthermore, we were a at a different place in our lives when we were in that past relationship. Why are we still holding on to that same mindset? That was for then, not now. We're not married to those men. But just in case you are... No one said that time would stand still and you both could remain in that place forever. People grow up or grow out of things. Some of us experience both. We should not still be pining over what we thought was the bomb at 20 years old and we're in our 30's, 40's, 50's or... It's a trick! Especially for the body of Christ!
Just as with Eve, the serpent can get into our feelings and cause us to lose focus on the commandments of our Father. We have a destiny, and I am convinced that the bulk of it is secured under the covering of marriage. Marriage is ministry, bottom line. The enemy knows that, so why do we tend to conveniently overlook that part? Eve was a healing for her husband's loneliness. The enemy wanted to get in that destiny and corrupt it. He almost did when Adam said, "The woman thou gavest to be with me..." (Gen 3:12) Adam didn't even call her by her name when the apple hit the fan. Lol!
Satan used her insecurities to accomplish THE fall, thus bringing down Adam. Same old story. Two birds, one stone. Vashti could have caused the same problem had Xerxes not been wise enough to seek counsel about her attitude. If you read the story, you will see that her sin was not just against her king, but the nobles and all the territories. Vashti's attitude is now an issue because it can influence other women within 127 provinces! Let's be real. That's a problem.
Let us pray that we are not an instrument to help pull our husbands down from the places God gave him dominion over. Like Vashti, we can suffer "banishment" because of our unwillingness to cover our kings the way our Father intended us to. If our godly husbands seek the Lord's counsel, don't let the counsel result in our removal due to our attitude in fear that we will "spread through" the home and ministry. Pray that we are mature and spirit lead Queens, like Esther, that we can help our husbands to maintain the territories given to us by our heavenly Father, even if we do not agree with the "requests" that are made at times. God gives us the wisdom and diplomacy to handle such situations as not to expose our kings to his enemies. After all, this is our destiny, not a job.
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