Band F Ministry invites you to come and grow along with us. Because we are true advocates of marriage and we believe that marriage “works”, we spend a considerable amount of time seeking God on ways of making the “work” plain and clear. We do this so that more and more married couples, or those who desire to wed, can follow the instructions given to us in the divine Word.
One of the misconceptions that we target regularly is the idea that single individuals and married couples follow a different set of rules in the Word. We discern this quite often in our social interactions in the body of Christ. Believers make statements or demonstrate behaviors that indicate that certain biblical principles are checked at the front door. For some, the biblical principles are abandoned in the driveway or hung up on the coat rack back at the office. So is there truth to the assertion that how you behave as a single person has no bearing on your behavior once you become married?
To answer simply, no. Granted,there are some specific cases where that assertion holds true. For example, a single, childless person would have to abandon many of their habits and beliefs if they married a person with children and an established family structure. However, as a whole, your belief structure and relationship with God remain relatively unchanged when you get married. In truth, you will have more opportunities to live out your faith, but your doing so will be a carry-over from your single life. When times of crisis come you will pray the same way, just for different things and people. When times of joy come, you will thank God, just for different opportunities and blessing. To phrase it differently, the majority of living is lived in the same manner. The tools for Godly living (the Word) are the same for everyone. Therefore, it is not a matter of who you are married to, but the nature of your relationship with the Father.
So, to continue along this line of utility, we have decided to discuss the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) and its application in marriage. How should we begin? First, what is a fruit? According to the dictionary, it is "any product of plant growth useful to humans or animals." Of course, we are going to focus on the usefulness to humans. Lol!
Second, why is this important in marriage? Jesus said in John 15:1-2, "I am the true vine, and my Father is the vinedresser. Every branch in me that does not bear fruit He takes away, and every branch that does bear fruit He prunes, that it may bear more fruit." A vine is planted solely for the sake of its fruit. Every “branch” means every “believer,” independent of humanly defined relationship statuses. An analogy of the benefits of our spiritual fruit is very evident in the natural sense. The nutrients in fruit are vital for health and maintenance of our physical body. How much more beneficial is spiritual fruit for our spiritual health? We are going to discover some of these spiritual and natural benefits together, leaving the door open for the Lord to give personal insight to each reader.
1/22/2018 02:54:51 pm
This is a great post! You make an important point, that the way we live matters, whether we're single or married. I'm excited to see how you apply the Scripture in Galatians to this topic!
Thank you for your comment, Ashley! We are excited about this series as well. One thing we would like to accomplish in sharing our perspective is to help both single and married people to understand that no matter what relationship status they are in, they will need these characteristics in order to experience a loving relationship as God intended. Better to practice now while single, or there's no better time than the present to help your marriage thrive. That word "thrive"-- wait until we get to that part of the fruit!
1/22/2018 08:58:53 pm
I think that it’s even more important to strengthen your relationship with God while your single because He will help guide and prepare you for the one He has put here for you. Much like the vine dresser you mention. He will take away those things that will eventually hurt your marriage and foster growth in those things that will help it. Can’t wait to see where this goes!!
1/23/2018 04:13:46 pm
Thank you for your comment, Centia.
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