So last week we discussed actions speaking louder than words for our soulmates. Well, this week is for the ones who thrive on words of affirmation. For many people, these minor actions are key to their stability and growth. This is not to say our loved ones are needy and dependent on the acceptance of everyone with whom they may come in contact. Admittedly, we can all attest to having that moment of pleasure that puts an extra pep in our step whenever we receive an unsolicited compliment somewhere in our hectic day.
Today's society teaches us that affirming another person is evidence of weakness in either party. Either the giver is manipulative or the recipient is needy with mommy/daddy issues. But even God our Father affirms us throughout His Word. There is one in particular we all long for. How many testimonies have ended with the following words? "I just want hear Jesus say to me 'Well done thou good and faithful servant'." Guess what? That's an affirmation! Why would we want to withhold one of the very acts our heavenly Father, who we can't see, uses to show us His love from the ones we say we love, who we see every day? God knows this life is not easy, and He has pre-planned a "compliment" for us to look forward to when we finally see Him face to face. Playing our roles in our marriage and family is not always easy. It can take a toll on us internally as well as externally. What's more comforting to you than hearing unsolicited compliments on your progress from the one who sees your efforts day in and day out? We expect if from our employers, our pastors, and extended family members. Make it a practice in your most vulnerable environment, your marriage. Warmest regards, Bird & Fish
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Putting action to words can make a world of difference to your spouse. We are living in a world now where a person's word has very little value. Honestly, can you blame someone for having trouble in this area? Family dynamics are in shambles. Many marriages consist of previously damaged fragments of a person loosely glued together and desperately trying to function as normally as possible. So believing in someone just because they say the words "I love you" is no longer the norm.
For so many of us, actions will speak louder than words. If that's the kind of person who you have committed to "doing life with", be sure to keep your word by following with the promised action (Matt 5:33-37 talks about empty promises.). Showing your teammate that you are willing to share the physical and mental load that comes with marriage and family is more valuable than riches. Not to mention, it can save you a few words in the end, like "I'm sorry". Warmest regards, B & F Ministry We can all agree that "to love" is the greatest command given to us by God our Father. In addition, we can probably agree that walking out this command is even harder. Is it because we are not readily aware of the integral pieces that are involved with love? One specifically in mind is forgiveness.
If you have not heard this before, be aware that forgiveness is for you and not the one in need of the forgiving. If we take a look at the many scriptures where Jesus cautions us on offense or being offended, we can see that the directives apply not only to the offender, but also to the one bearing the offense. In other words, DON'T HOLD GRUDGES. The next three points may be tough, but please CHOOSE not to be offended. Prayerfully hear the intent of the message. Our most basic emotional need is to be genuinely loved by another, to know a love that grows out of reason and choice, not instinct. At the heart of many troubled relationships and marriages there is one desire that is echoed time and time again. "I need to be loved by someone who chooses to love me, who recognizes something inside me worth loving."
Fish and I were enjoying a beautiful Saturday morning. We had an awesome date night the evening before; we planned the list of errands to run the following morning; and most importantly, we planned how we were going to finish relaxing and enjoying one another’s company the remainder of the weekend. Simple, right? But I forgot one thing. 1 Peter 5:8 says, “Be well balanced (temperate, sober minded), be vigilant and cautious at all times: for that enemy of yours, the devil, roams around like a lion roaring (in fierce hunger), seeking someone to seize upon and devour. (Amplified Bible) Let me put it this way. “Keep a cool head. Stay alert. The devil is poised to pounce, and would like nothing better than to catch you napping.” (Msg Bible) Well, he caught me.
Recently, Bird and I went to the mall to do some shopping. It was the weekend, therefore, the crowd was fairly dense. Being the couple that we are, we were holding hands as we walked along. As we made our way through the mall, we would from time to time have to navigate around oncoming people or people we wished to pass. Because we were holding hands, we were able to direct each other’s steps by means of simple pressure of the hand or a slight pull into the desired direction to avoid being separated. Our handholding also made it impossible for people behind us to walk in-between us. Once we had completed our shopping, we discussed our next destination, and headed to the parking lot.
I’ve been hash tagging this a lot lately. Simply because I need to be reminded of the commitment I made to Daddy through the revelation He gave me. It’s a reminder of the conversation we had to have after a Bible study class. I’m going to write it until it is engraved in my heart. For now, I am walking out my promise in the natural until it becomes a permanent part of my life.
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