Sex In The Church

Fooled By the Brochure!

After discussing this topic with Fish, we decided this was a necessary blog. This seems to be a topic that the church does not want to deal with, but it needs to be addressed with the utmost sincerity. I'm going to just jump straight to my perception. Sex is a gift from God FOR us! It is not a chore, a treat to be rationed out, a weapon or tool (however, one may try to justify using it as such), a hobby, or means to simply populate the earth. IT IS A GIFT THAT WAS INTENDED TO BE ENJOYED BY HIS CHILDREN!

Imagine Christmas day. You just know that the one thing you have wanted all year is up under that tree. You get to the tree and there it is! Just as beautiful and amazing as you have imagined. Your parents stand by grinning and high fiving each other because they know they got this one right. No doubt about it. You rip off the ribbons and whatever paper that was concealing it because what was underneath was way more important than how it came wrapped. There it is. Everything you could possibly imagine about this gift is running through your head. OMG! All the creative things you're going to do with this new gift. And then... It happens. Parents put it together, hook it up, put in the batteries, or whatever the setup is and the beginning of the end has started. Who remembers this:

Easy Bake Oven: The recipe did not taste as good as the actors portrayed on the television. In fact, they really looked as if these were the best mini cakes ever baked! What about those cookies that oozed all over the oven never taking shape? Their cookies were iced and sprinkled shaped perfectly. You and your mother or sister scraped your cookies off the bottom of that light weight bread box and had to replace the light bulb because you couldn't get all of the watery dough mix off of it. So every attempt to bake anything after that filled the house with smoke and that burning stench. Finally, the oven ends up in the back of some closet with the intentions of making it better... One day.

Remote Control Race Car: Man, that commercial really let you know that you could do some things if only you had THIS remote control car. Remember the high jumps over the boulders? But you could only get yours to coast really fast over a plastic cup or the cup would knock your race car over if went to slow. How come the bumper didn't come off the car on T.V. when it crashed, did a tailspin, and burned rubber leaving the scene of the stunt? So you decided to have yours jump off the coffee table. So what! That's what it's designed to do right? Right? Three wheels and one headlight later; oh and a broken antenna, the car ends up as scrap toy metal at the bottom of the toy box.

Ladies and gentlemen I just described a couple of marriages. Marriages? I thought this was about sex? That's my point. We would like to believe that we still live in an age where sex is a separate issue from marriage. It is when you are talking to single people. We can agree that single people have different struggles with sex. However, can we "admit" that marriages have their own struggle too? Is the church ready to admit that sex is an issue in marriages that can then spill over into the house of God? And quite honestly it should. God created it. If something is wrong with it, then let Him deal with it, in His house, in His way.

We cannot continue to act like this is not a subject that does not belong in the church. It should have its own office space if you ask me. Sex is one of the biggest issues, dare I say problems, in the church and its marriages. The enemy wants to keep us at that place where we only teach abstinence and no sex before or in between marriage(s). This is ridiculous when our sanctuaries are filled with single parents, teen parents, people who have or are committing adultery, and most of all unsatisfied married couples. Don't believe me? Let's see how you respond if you find out someone in your church has their eye on your Christmas gift. This is even for some that are tucked away in your closet because we have some gifted repair and maintenance workers sitting in the congregation just waiting to put in work on your junk. Somebody somewhere out there just heard what I said.

Listen, I am in no way condoning promiscuous behavior or adultery. What I am about is beating the enemy in yet another crucial area that he is raking God's people over the coals with silently behind the doors of the church. Sex is real, and so are the desires that come with it. This is not a curse or a scourge from the devil. It is simply yet another gift from God that the devil has been able to manipulate and use for wrong motives. Satan has also taken our ignorance and naivety about this subject and made headway within our households and church families. As people of God we have got to recognize this and do something about it. Sex is just as real as any other problem we go to the altar about, and not for the obvious assumptions. That's where I feel we're missing it; looking at it from one side. Sinful! In upcoming blogs we will discuss this further, but I wanted to give readers a glimpse of the real subject matters we plan to discuss in our judgment free zone.


Best regards,

Bird
B&F Ministry of Atlanta

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