Marriage Fruit: Peace
Peace in marriage. This is such a beautiful concept, and Romans 14:19 instructs us to make every effort to do the things that will lead us into or maintain peace. It also tells us to make every effort to say things that strengthen and encourage one another. What is better training ground for this lesson other than the mission field of marriage? I had the pleasure of writing about this fruit because it is a struggle for me even today. So, I am going to share three concepts that still help me to show this part of the fruit in time of trouble.
This may take a minute, so let’s get comfortable.
Our adversary tries to distort or pervert God’s creation in any way he can. One of his tactics is influencing us to respond in an ungodly manner to one another knowing we have been instructed to do otherwise. Our Father designed our emotions, logic, and language to express His characteristics back to Him and to one another. He wants our heartfelt love. Our body language should demonstrate this love, and certainly our words should express this love; first to Him and then to one another. Yet, we were born into a sinful state. Now, these traits that should have been evidence of who He is through us have turned into one life lesson after another of trying to discover who He is despite who we are. This has created a very different world other than what God intended it to be, and that is peaceful.
Peace is from God. Being satisfied (content) is one of the main attributes of the fruit of the Spirit helping couples create and maintain a redemptive atmosphere for one another. Usually, the lack of peace is an indication that someone is not satisfied. Honestly, it is difficult to find it in our spouse, because it should be found in Christ, first. When we seek our peace from Jesus, we take the pressure from our spouse to provide something they are not capable of giving. The Bible tells us that God will keep us in perfect peace, not our spouse. In fact, the Word has many scriptures between the Old and the New Testament that talk about the blessings of embracing a peaceful lifestyle (God's way) and the consequences if we do not. If you take some time to research some of the scriptures yourself, I trust you will see its importance. Here are just a few examples:
In John 16:33 Jesus explains to us that we should expect tribulations in this life, not to discourage us, but so that we will experience a peace by not being caught off guard by the enemy’s tactics. We will have those moments when it feels like nothing we do or say is right in the eyes of the ones we love. Be encouraged anyway. He even has power over marital discord. In those moments we tend to forget that our adversary does exist because he does not show himself in his usual form. We see and hear our spouse. When we choose to be offended rather than stand on the Word, that is when the enemy is apparent. Not sure if you have chosen offense? Here are some obvious and not so obvious examples that are clues:
If all else fails, have that one go-to scripture that you can memorize and meditate on that you know will honestly bring you back to where you desire to be in any situation. For example, the love chapter is not my go-to scripture in warfare! I need something else. 2 Cor. 10:3-6 says “For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh, for the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but divinely powerful [mighty through God] for the destruction of fortresses [strongholds]. We are destroying speculations [imaginations] and every lofty thing [elevated barrier] raised up against the knowledge [the Word] of God, and we are taking every thought captive [capture one’s mind] to the obedience of Christ, and we are ready to punish [protect and defend, avenge or vindicate one’s right] all disobedience, whenever Your obedience is complete [executed, carried out, complete].” This means for me:
Keep in mind, the Word warns us that when we give in to anger we bear the blame for the resulted rebellion (Proverbs 29:22). So even for those of us who engage in arguments because you know you are right, you have to ask yourself is being recognized by man as the one in the right worth bearing the blame for a transgression in the eyes of God? Your need to be right can be the reason why someone saw you and not the peace of Christ, thus delaying His presence to enter into the situation. I will leave you with this last thought. “For God is not a god of disorder, but of peace-- as in all the congregation [the universal body of Christ] of the Lord’s people.” 1 Cor. 14:33
2/15/2018 01:35:21 pm
Love this, Bird! You are so right that we don't war against our spouse, we war against the Enemy. I don't consider myself a natural peacemaker, but this is a great reminder that I need to make peace where I can so that I can be useful to God. Thanks so much for sharing!
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